Princess Ivy

yes, my divorce has now come through. taken long enough. a friend asked what the matter is, why i'm not jumping for joy. i don't know. i started this, i've been waiting for it, and yet it is still a bit of a shock. the final ending tht i suppose i've not really believed in. i think that i've always assumed that at the last min he would get help and we'd be able to be a family again - even although i've know for some time that i couldn't let that happen.
sorry for ranting a bit, i just need to try to get things in perspective without people around me going 'jump for joy'. i wish they'd let me feel my own feelings instead of telling me how i should be reacting.

Leto

Hey, it's the end of an era, it's normal you're not instantly "Jumping with joy". But at least now, you can relax a bit. And unfortunatly, as he's still the father of your kids, you two are still a kind of family, even if quite disfunctional for the moment.

You've made a difficult but right decision going for divorce, for you, the kids and even your ex (even if he don't recognize it yet). In a few days, weeks or months you'll be happy with it, for now just relax and enjoy life with your kids without having to worry about court and lawyers.

steve12553

My divorce was a no-brainer. It was still rough. I don't know how I'd have reacted it I still had feelings. I think you have to keep faith in your decision and try to move on. Best of luck. Remember to believe in yourself.

Alexa

And think about what you really want to realize by yourself.

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Phyllis Sidheuaine

Excuse me for getting a bit psychological here, but you're grieving.

Tune out the people who tell you how you "should" feel and just go through the process (no matter how many times you need to.) Make sure to fill this "prescription", too:

*scribble, scribble, scribble*
*RRRRRRRRRRIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIP*

Take two :kitty:s and call me in the morning.

Phyllis Sidheuaine

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Princess Ivy

the kitties are always comforting. yeah, i shut myself up for a couple of days and just let the feelings flow. now i'm feeling better. it was over, i knew that, had decided it myself. as i said before, it was just the shock of it all comming home. i know i've done the only thing i could do. because i took the active choice to move away and on, i can deal with things ok now.