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Old 01-31-2006, 11:40 AM   #31 (permalink)
Lord raven
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Default Re: Relationships; starting-holding-finishing...

aproching the gaggle of doom withought being shot down in flames a nasty delema but there are 2 ways of acumplishing this that i have found worked for me

1 the frontal attack
only to be attempted if you are a confident person as you need to aproch the group with confidence but dont be brash or overbairing great them all as a group " hello ladies " or whatever you feel comfortable with DO NOT get pulled into small talk wemen think a lot faster than we do and at least 50% of them will have sussed out what you are atempting before you have finished saying hello ask of the groupe if t would be posible to speak to speek to the object of your desire while keeping your full atenshion on that person this shows good manners and puts the honus on the group to respond likewise and give you a modicum of the privasy you have non verbaly asked for if all goes well and theres no 100% garantee that it will they will move off a ways but not to far and a giggling oturarge can be somewhat distracting so if posible take it on the road so to speek walk and talk the group will follow but behing this helps to furver remove the peer preshure on her and and the distraction on you by removing them from your sight radious and from there my friend its up to you

2 covert operations
this is for the less scrupulas amongst us but for the less bold is probably also a good bet the group that so daunt you can actualy be your greatest allie and in fact can do most of your PR for you look at the core group as a hole try to sus out there characters your looking for the most aprochable one and preferably the one you feel no sexual attraction to at all find out as mutch as you can abought this person try and find common ground between you armed with this information and the fact that there isnt a sexual attraction will make this person a lot easiar to aproch and talk to so do so befriend this person if all goes well thease people will be your friends eventuly so you may as well get the ball rolling right from the off but remember you are talking friend hear do not get caught up in a relationship she is not your gole and it would only end up hurting both of you and that is something we dont want
if all has gone well you now have an in with the group and you have been notised so your a talking point and this person is saying positive things abought you the group is being swayed into seeing you in a positive light in conversations with this person ask abought the person that is your gole dont drone on just casual bits and peices the group as a hole will soon sus out what your up to
by witch time you have probably got friendly with a few members and a lot of positive feedback is heading the way of the object of your desire in fact if all is going well the group is now working for you putting preshure on the one person you are actuly after to give you a chance so when you do aproch them they are more recptive to your advances and the rest of the group are routing for you the rest again is up to you

i personaly would recomend going with 1 as thats the catagory i fall into but in many years of people watching i have seen 2 used on a few ocations and it did seem to work
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